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The Somaiya Survival Manual • Chapter 14

Mental Health, Stress & Survival

Pages 199-210

Mental Health, Stress & Survival

Let's Talk Honestly

College is sold as "the best years of your life." For some, it is. For many, it's also:

  • Stressful
  • Confusing
  • Lonely sometimes
  • Overwhelming often

Both can be true. Acknowledging struggle doesn't mean you're failing.

Common Mental Health Challenges

Academic Stress

  • Exam anxiety
  • Assignment overload
  • Fear of failure
  • Comparison with toppers

Social Anxiety

  • Fear of judgment
  • Difficulty making friends
  • Imposter syndrome
  • FOMO (Fear of Missing Out)

Personal Issues

  • Family pressure
  • Financial concerns
  • Relationship problems
  • Identity questions

Serious Concerns

  • Depression
  • Anxiety disorders
  • Substance issues
  • Thoughts of self-harm

Warning Signs

In Yourself

  • Persistent sadness (weeks, not days)
  • Loss of interest in everything
  • Sleep issues (too much or too little)
  • Appetite changes
  • Isolation from everyone
  • Difficulty concentrating
  • Thoughts of harm

In Friends

  • Sudden personality changes
  • Withdrawal from activities
  • Drop in academic performance
  • Substance use increase
  • Talk of hopelessness
  • Giving away possessions
  • Goodbye-like statements

What You Can Do

Self-Care Basics

  • Sleep: 7-8 hours (non-negotiable)
  • Exercise: Even 20 minutes helps
  • Eating: Regular meals, less junk
  • Hydration: Water, not just tea/coffee
  • Sunlight: 15 minutes daily
  • Social: Talk to at least one person

Stress Management

  • Break tasks into smaller chunks
  • Pomodoro technique for studying
  • Physical activity as stress relief
  • Creative outlets (music, art, writing)
  • Limiting social media during stress
  • Saying no when overwhelmed

Building Resilience

  • Journaling (even 5 minutes)
  • Gratitude practice
  • Mindfulness apps (Headspace, Calm)
  • Talking about feelings
  • Accepting imperfection
  • Learning from setbacks

Getting Help

On-Campus Resources

  • College counselor (usually free)
  • Student wellness center
  • Professors you trust
  • NSS mental health initiatives
  • Peer support programs

External Resources

  • iCall: 9152987821
  • Vandrevala Foundation: 1860-2662-345
  • AASRA: 9820466726
  • Private therapists (affordable options exist)
  • Online therapy (BetterHelp, etc.)

When to Seek Help

  • If self-care isn't working
  • If daily life is affected
  • If symptoms persist over weeks
  • If you have thoughts of harm
  • If someone asks you to get help

Helping Friends

Do's

  • Listen without judgment
  • Ask directly about feelings
  • Offer to accompany them to help
  • Check in regularly
  • Take mentions of harm seriously

Don'ts

  • Don't dismiss their feelings
  • Don't try to "fix" them
  • Don't share their struggles without permission
  • Don't make it about yourself
  • Don't give up after one attempt

The Stigma Reality

Mental health stigma exists in India. Here's how to navigate:

  • You don't have to announce your struggles
  • Find a trusted few to confide in
  • Getting help is strength, not weakness
  • Your struggles don't define you
  • Language matters—avoid using conditions as insults

Exam Season Survival

The high-stress period:

  • Start early (really, it helps)
  • Sleep before exams (all-nighters rarely work)
  • Eat properly (brain needs fuel)
  • Take breaks (study-break ratio)
  • Limit caffeine (anxiety trigger)
  • No comparison during prep
  • After exams: disconnect, recover

Balance Is Everything

You can be:

  • Ambitious AND kind to yourself
  • Hardworking AND resting
  • Struggling AND succeeding
  • Happy AND having bad days

It's not either/or. It's and.


Your mental health is not separate from your success—it's the foundation. Take care of yourself. You matter more than any grade.